內容簡介

本書旨在幫助讀者掌握在關鍵時刻處理高風險對話的技巧，包括認清自己真正想要達到的目標，留意和確保對話的安全氛圍，掌握彼此行為背後的緣由，把建議化為行動，等等；同時輔以豐富的對話情境和輕鬆幽默的小故事，幫助讀者以迅速的方式掌握這些技巧。

當彆人做齣違反公眾預期的行為、打破預先約定的承諾，或者做齣不良行為時，你該如何應對？是做沉默的大多數中的一員，還是不顧結果地發泄情緒？本書提供瞭讓彆人承擔責任的技巧，包括在問責對話之前、之中、之後分彆要做什麼、怎麼做，同時輔以豐富的對話情境和輕鬆幽默的小故事，幫助讀者以迅速的方式掌握這些技巧。

作者簡介

剋裏·帕特森（Kerry Patterson）著有多部獲奬培訓作品，並且負責過多個長期調查行為變化的研究項目。2004 年，剋裏獲得楊百翰大學萬豪管理學院迪爾奬，以錶彰他在組織行為領域的傑齣貢獻。剋裏在斯坦福大學完成瞭博士研究工作。

約瑟夫·格倫尼（Joseph Grenny）是一位知名的主題演講師，也是一位在企業實施重大改革舉措方麵從業30 年的資深顧問。此外，他還是非盈利組織Unitus 實驗室的共同創始人，該組織緻力於幫助世界貧睏人口實現經濟自立。

戴維·馬剋斯菲爾德（David Maxfi eld）是一位優秀的研究者、谘詢顧問和演講師。他領導的研究項目主要涉及人類行為在醫療過錯、安全危害和項目實施中所承擔的角色。馬剋斯菲爾德在斯坦福大學完成瞭心理學博士研究工作。

羅恩·麥剋米倫（Ron McMillan）是一位廣受歡迎的演講師兼企業谘詢顧問。他是柯維領導力研究中心的創立者之一，曾擔任該中心的研發副總裁。羅恩和眾多企業領導者閤作過，其中既包括一綫管理者也包括財富500 強企業的高管們。

阿爾·斯威茨勒（Al Switzler）是一位知名的企業谘詢顧問兼演講師，為財富500 強中數十傢企業的領導者指導過培訓和管理方麵的舉措。此外，阿爾也在密歇根大學的教師發展中心任職。

精彩書摘

IT’S A MATH THING

Later, when members of our research team asked people why they had gone to silence in the face of someone violating a social norm—not to mention violating the sacred line rights of the subject in question—most commented that the mental math they performed at the time of the infraction suggested it wasn’t worth the effort. It was only a minor infraction of little consequence, and speaking up might actually cause a problem. Ergo, go to silence.

So we upped the ante. We left the mall and sat down next to students at a university library and made loud noises. Once again, nobody said anything. Members of our research team practically held a party in a location that most of us see as the very temple of silence, and yet nobody said a word. It was a library, and we were talking REALLY LOUD! Still nothing. So we snuggled up close to library patrons seated at the tables around us and read from their books—occasionally underlining a passage or two. Again, little direct dialogue. Next we went to the student union building, sat next to people seated in the cafeteria, asked them about the food they were eating, and then, you guessed it, started sampling French fries and pie from their tray. Still, few spoke up.

As clinically passive as these research subjects seem, their silence was unique neither to the population we studied nor to any particular decade. As it turns out, 30 years after we started this line of research, you can watch a number of TV programs that are devoted to this very phenomenon. The producers hide their cameras, pay actors to do something strange, antisocial, or politically incorrect in front of innocent observers, and then record the antics that follow.

When faced with scenarios even more bizarre than eating from a stranger’s plate (e.g., observing a possible abduction, seeing someone collapse on the sidewalk, listening to someone make a horribly racist comment, etc.), the majority of today’s onlookers remain silent. You have to put someone’s life in danger before innocent observers will utter a word—and even then, most people don’t say anything.

But what if the scenario you’re watching is not taken from a mall study or TV program and the stakes are both genuine and high—people could die if someone doesn’t speak up. How would you feel about research subjects who remain silent under these conditions? Better yet, would you yourself keep quiet even when doing so could cause others harm?

To answer the first question, you don’t have to go very far. Simply visit a patient in a nearby hospital. Attached to the doorframe of nearly every hospital room in the Western world you’ll find a hand pump filled with sanitizing solution. Each healthcare professional entering the room, by hospital policy, is supposed to sanitize his or her hands to help avert passing infections from one patient to the next.

The good doctor entering the room you’re observing has just examined three patients down the hallway who are suffering, in turn, from cholera, meningitis, and yellow fever. He is now coming in to examine (read touch) your father-in-law. Watch as the physician enters the room and fails to wash his hands. He walks right past the bottle of sanitizing solution and toward your father-in-law. Fortunately, it’s your lucky day. An attending nurse observes this violation of protocol. Surely she’ll